Saturday, December 8, 2012

What is it with these people?????

It is a truth universally acknowledged.......that you should listen to the little voice in your head saying 'no, don't do it - you'll be sorrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeee'. So as I know this to be true, why, some weeks ago did I agree to go on a work 'dinner/disco/xmas' night out at a local hotel?
I have never joined in before, and when I said yes, looking back I realise I was at a low ebb and thinking that if I tried to be like the others in the office I might not be so unhappy there. But no...........if I had been 
a) wearing a short tight cheap dress
b) had a paper hat on
c) blowing up balloons and blowing on those annoying whistle things every five minutes 
d) shrieking really loudly over the music
e) drinking excessively
I might have enjoyed it.
As it was, every fibre of my mind and body wanted to be somewhere else.
I felt as if I were in a Wacky Warehouse for grown ups.
It was not good.
I was the first to leave, and not one person there would have missed me.....and why should they? in fact you may be reading this and thinking 'miserable bitch', and that is fine. I should have listened to my inner voice. I should not have tried to be someone else, and perhaps make the others feel uncomfortable by me being there. Never again.
We cannot all be the same, we all like different things and behave in different ways.
Such is the way of the world.
I cannot do forced jollity, and the best times of my life have been with friends and family - never work colleagues.
Last night as I mentally counted down the minutes until I could leave all I could think of was 'what is it with these people?  they are like oversized drunken 3yr olds staggering about in a noisy noisy environment of flashing lights'.
It truly was a wacky warehouse for the middle aged.....I hated those places when my kids were small and nothing has changed.
So ..... yet again my work colleagues will think me peculiar.........and I will go back to being true to myself and not try to fit in. I hope they all had a good time. My good times are just different to theirs.


Nana Go-Go said...

Oh dear, Libs, this so reminds me of those dreaded Xmas Nights Out when I worked a la office. I used to start getting nervous around October when they were at the planning stages and went through every excuse why not to attend. In the end,I used to get dragged along and was exactly like you, clock-watching until it was time to go home and even this weekend, I haven't been invited to my best friend's (the one who is seriously ill)'girly' birthday (this might be her last)weekend away (organised by her 'other' friends)because I am
tee-total and apparently, you can't have a good time unless you're crawling on the floor and throwing your knickers in the air at the end of the night!And they call that a 'good time'!Not for me, I'm afraid. You have a good weekend and forget about the rest. x

About Last Weekend said...

You describe this nightmare (party) so so well. I think I've been to that same party in three places in the world. Forced jollity is so so tiring and I usually end up drinking too many bourbon based sticky drinks which makes it even worse. Write-off night plus morning oooks.

Trish Burgess said...

I'm really glad I don't go out to work so I don't have to go to work parties. I do work for my husband though so we can have a little Christmas celebration of our own ;-)))

Cro Magnon said...

I sympathise. May I suggest having a mobile phone in your pocket, and ask someone to phone you ten minutes after you've arrived. Good party you could stay; bad party you rush off to save the world.

Steve said...

I haven't goen out on a work's do for about 4 years now. I swear I am a happier person because of it.

sensibilia said...

I do agree with everything you say, also I understand completely about the reason you went being that you felt at a low ebb.

I totally sympathise and also feel like a bit of a freak sometimes for being serious and not wanting to do these sorts of things.

Don't worry, you are SO not alone in this! And they will all feel terrible the next day!

If you work in a big enough office, no one will even notice that you are not there, esp once they all start drinking.

In a small office it's much more difficult.

sensibilia said...

I think these people are really sad. I'd much rather have nice quiet evenings out with friends and family.

Kelloggs Ville said...

I'm with you completely. (Not) an amazing coincedence that I have a Guiding event (not) that is just too important for me to miss, otherwise I would have been on the works do like a shot (not).

libby said...

Thanks to each and every one of you for posting a comment. I was beginning to think that I was very out of step with most humans and you have all made me feel better. I really wish I could meet all of you a gathering that would not involve noisy balloons or trying to talk over a very bad disco!

Andy said...

I tend to avoid these things too, on the basis that alcohol removes some of the few social filters I generally have and I worry about saying something to someone who might not understand just how hilarious I am....

The middle-aged Wacky Warehouse line made me laugh hugely!

Macy said...

Our office divides nearly into two halves - those who go to the Christmas night out - and those like myself who don't! This year I managed to avoid the Team Building Day too, which I count as a personal triumph.

libby said...

Andy...good to know x.
Macy....Hi!! glad you are still out there in the ether well.x

Curry Queen said...

I know what you mean. Our office night out is tomorrow and, while it will probably be a fairly tame affair, am trying hard not to dread it...

Sarah said...

Hi Libby, I found your blog via sensibilia's.

I have grown to dislike our work Xmas party too. The atmosphere is not good here at the moment and the last thing I want to do is socialise with people I don't want to socialise with. Luckily we are doing it at work at lunch time so it won't cost much.

I hated the sound of your work bash. It sounded juvenile, loud, drunken and fake. Beurk.

libby said...

CQ...strange isn't it that not too many people really enjoy 'the work do'..hope you have a good time.

Sarah...welcome and thanks for posting. As horrible as it sounds to some, I didn't choose the people I work with and I have to see them when I am being paid..but on my own time I love to see family and friends.

Isabelle said...

Oh dear, that sounds very horrid. My work outings are always fine but that's because we're all English teachers and thus very civilised... no, actually, I'm lucky in my colleagues. (Well, except one... .) Why am I talking in the present, when I'm retired?

libby said...

Isabelle....lucky indeed, on both fronts.

Marcheline said...

I have found that, in general, the people one works with are not one's friends. Why would anyone want to socialize, and get drunk with, people who are not your friends? That's a sure recipe for disaster. Gossip, sexual situations that would never occur in sober moments, the list is endless.

I never socialize with co-workers. I made the mistake of going to ONE high school reunion. Never again. Stick to folks you know and love, and it'll be all right in the end.

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